Facing our fears

One of the most pervasive experiences in a college community is fear. Coming to campus in the fall, first-years ask, Will this be ok for me? Starting a new semester I ask, Will this work out ok for me? Faced with an important performance (a test question, an unanswered thought hanging over a conference discussion, a face-to-face meeting with your adviser, a lecture to give) we worry, Will I be found out? Will I be discovered to be the inadequate imposter that I think I am?

The thoughts that surround fear are just thoughts, but they are constantly rippling back and forth across the Reed community as if blown by an unseen wind. Unchecked they can quickly convert what were supposed to be opportunities for new experience and growth into soul-sapping dread and terror.

Author David Guy described his personal confrontation with fear and stage fright, and how he slowly learned to deal with it through meditation, in his book, Waste No More Moonlight (excerpted in Summer 2003 Tricycle as “Trying to Speak: A Personal History of Stage Fright”).

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Err in the Direction of Kindness

Graduation is well behind us. Everyone is trying to figure out how to accomplish all those special things that we couldn’t do during the school year and can only attempt during summer break. At the risk of loading you down with more than you can possibly handle, here’s a suggestion for one more thing to practice this summer: err in the direction of kindness.

This suggestion, which comes from the graduation (convocation?) speech that George Saunders delivered to the Class of 2013 at Syracuse University, can be applied in many ways. Am I being kind to others? Am I being kind to myself? What does a slight shift towards kindness require of me?

Many folks tell me that they would like to meditate, but don’t have the time for it. Sometimes I reply that there isn’t a required minimum time that they need to spend in meditation, that even a little quiet time might be helpful, but mostly I don’t say anything. I realize that people really do lead busy lives and silence, non-doing, sitting, even for a few minutes, feels like a hard thing to take up. We are programmed to do. If we not-do, we think we will fall behind.

But perhaps there is a small opportunity here? What if I told you that 2 minutes of not-doing, just watching the way you breathe and listening to the sounds all around you, might be an act of self-kindness? That it might be one small way in which you can ‘err in the direction of kindness’ towards yourself? Would you be willing to do that much for yourself?

Majoring in Meditation

The role of contemplation in human affairs is gradually working its way into higher education. The Association for Contemplative Mind in Higher Education has been a gathering spot for educators who see “the life of the mind” as something larger than a purely intellectual pursuit. And just recently, Brown University has announced a new academic concentration that they call the Contemplative Studies Initiative.

Speaking with USA Today (June 3, “Contemplating a New Major?”), Prof. Harold Roth says that contemplative studies “looks at human contemplative experience across culture and across time from different perspectives.” The concentration requires courses in cognitive science, religion and philosophy, and concentrators can choose whether to focus their course of study on the sciences or the humanities.

Rick Rubin on Meditation and Non-judgment

One of our regular meditators, Breesa, tipped me off to an interesting connection between meditation and pop music: Rick Rubin: Rick produces pop music of all varieties. His “clients” have included the Beastie Boys, Dixie Chicks, Metallica, LL Cool J, Eminem, Aerosmith, and Johnny Cash. So many of his productions have “gone platinum” and won awards, he is considered a “super producer.”

So what makes it possible for Rick to hear what each of these artists has to offer, build a trusting collaboration, and bring out their best? As Rick puts it, it starts with the quiet that he finds through meditation:

“I’ll spend time with an artist and listen very carefully … the more time you spend being quiet and looking in, your intuition grows and you trust it more. Messages come if you’re looking for them. Through meditation I developed the skill to know what to ask for. It’s like a knowing.”

More Rick Rubin quotes and information (and more information about the ability of meditation to enhance our ability to listen), can be found at “How Super Producer Rick Rubin Gets People To Do Their Best Work” (by Ruth Blatt, Forbes, 4/28/2014)

Another World Within

Anam C.ara: A Book of Celtic Wisdom by John O’Donohue (1956-2008) opens with:

It is strange to be here. The mystery never leaves you alone. Behind your image, below your words, above your thoughts, the silence of another world waits. A world lives within you. No one else can bring you news of this inner world.

But we can find it if we just stop and listen.

Summer 2014 Meditation Schedule

Graduation is behind us and college life has started moving to a different rhythm. One sign of this will be a change in meditation day from Wednesday to Thursday. Our summer (May 22 – August 21) meditation schedule will be:

Thursdays, Eliot chapel, 12-1 PM (first bells at 12:10)

See our Meditation Schedule page for more information about location and schedule.

I will be traveling off-and-on throughout the summer and won’t be able to make every session so please check back here for updates to the summer schedule. Or, better yet, join our e-mail list and get weekly schedule reminders.

Meditation for Distraction

It’s becoming a cliche to say we live in the Age of Distraction.

Dilbert May 13, 2014

But ‘distraction’ doesn’t mean the same thing for everyone. What if your brain is unusually inclined to distraction? What if it interferes with your ability to focus? There are drugs for treating ADHD, yet some of the newest research (“Exercising the Mind to Treat Attention Deficits”, NY Times, Well, May 12) suggests that mindfulness training/meditation plus mental exercises may offer the comparable benefits for people experiencing ‘cognitive control’ problems. Of course, swallowing a pill is pretty quick.

M-Tu-W sessions for Finals Weeks

Classes are over. Renn Fayre is past. Maybe you’ve caught up some on your sleep, or maybe you’ve been too worried? Did I turn in that late lab report? What room is my final exam being held in? Did I call about the storage company about getting my stuff packed away? My dorm room is still one vast, smoking pile of laundry and debris. What time are my folks and my little brother going to show up?

So maybe you should just take a deep breath. Count to one (just one). And then take another breath. It’s OK to just sit for a few minutes and not do anything. The world won’t come to an end … and maybe a few moments of peace are just what you need.

If you would like to find a quiet place to sit, come over to the Eliot chapel today (11-11:40 AM), Tuesday (noon-12:40 PM) and Wednesday (noon-12:40 PM). Our group is holding extra meditation sessions in the Eliot chapel all three days. As usual, the first 3 bells will be rung 10 minutes after the hour and the last 3 bells will sound 30 minutes later. I can almost promise you sunshine through the south side windows.

The teachings of a lifetime

It is Orals week on the Reed campus. Day after day, hour after hour, senior after senior sits down in a room with three or four faculty to answer questions about their senior projects. Sometimes answers leap to a senior’s lips. Other times there is only stunned silence and puzzlement. Whatever the senior’s response, there is invariably gratitude from the faculty for the effort being made.

Which reminds me of a famous koan taken from a conversation held over a 1000 years ago between a Chinese monk and his zen master:

Blue Cliff Record, Case 14

A monk asked YunMen, “What are the teachings of a whole lifetime?”

YunMen said, “An appropriate response.”

YunMen was the zen master. He was not just toying with the monk. He was trying to help the monk. (As with all koans, contemplation of his response is supposed to hasten awakening.)

During this week of marathon question-and-answer sessions, do I know what is an appropriate response? Do you?

By the way, if you are curious about YunMen, Case 14, zen and koans, listen to a short talk that was given by Barry Magid, the teacher at the Ordinary Mind Zen school in NY City, in 2010. To access the talk save this MP3 link to your computer or go to this list of 2010 Dharma talks and select “Dharma Dog” (the first 20 seconds are silent so don’t give up too quickly; note: the titles ‘Dharma Dog’ and ‘Blue Cliff Record, Case 14: The Teaching of a Lifetime’ appear to be swapped so Dog leads to Case 14 and vice versa).

Eating apples and sitting

Health fads die hard.

For example, while I enjoy eating all kinds of things (chocolate, yum), I can’t help giving myself little pats on the back for leaning towards foods with fiber and nutrients and steering clear of saturated fat and sugar. So you can imagine my disappointment when I read, “An Apple a Day, and Other Myths” in the NY Times (April 22, 2014). It seems that cancer experts have tossed in the towel when it comes to using diet to lower cancer risk.

So what does this mean about meditation? I’m not a “promiser” when it comes to talking about the benefits of meditation, but I’m not above giving myself a pat on the back for finding time to meditate and I certainly feel like meditation has changed my life. Continue reading