The holidays are here at last.

While some live their lives according to the shopping calendar (9 shopping days left before Christmas!), my life has been ruled by the academic calendar for as long as I can remember. Just a few minutes ago 60 students in my organic chemistry class were sitting in a room down the hall from me, hunched over their final exams, sweating bullets and scribbling formulas, hoping to make a lighthearted getaway from campus.

The holidays are finally here.

Holidays promise and holidays beckon, but what if they fail to deliver? Will your plane be late? Did you ask for concert tickets only to get placed in the upper deck behind the band? Will Uncle Rick and Aunt Alice, having sandwiched themselves on both sides of you at the Christmas dinner table, never tire of telling you about the week you spent at their house when you were three years old? Must you bite your tongue until it bleeds when Cousin Roger starts his annual post-dinner tirade about the Direction this Country is Headed In?

Zen practitioner and sometime Santa’s helper, Shozan Jack Haubner (a pen name), knows all about holiday angst. As he puts it (video link), the universe is not what any of us would have designed, and yet it is the universe we live in. Perhaps his ideas on opening yourself to the inevitability of giving and receiving will help steer you towards a family reunion that is happier and less anxious.

Wishing everyone the experience of peace, love, and kindness, this holiday season. -Alan

Sitting in silence, my world is far from silent.

Ears hum. Stomach gurgles.
Joints – my knees? the chapel? – creak.
Bird calls, the wind in the trees,
The rattling of the rain,
Cars sweeping past,
The warning horn of a distant train.
Tell me to remember … we are here.
In you.
As you are in us.
The thoughts that I sat down with
Are still chattering in my head.

(time passes … attention shifts)

Breathing in, I know I’m breathing in.
Breathing out, I know I’m breathing out.
(In. Out.)

Breathing in, my breath grows deep.
Breathing out, my breath grows slow.
(Deep. Slow.)

Breathing in, I’m aware of my body.
Breathing out, I calm my body.
(Aware of body. Calming.)

Breathing in, I smile.
Breathing out, I release.
(Smile. Release.)

Breathing in, I dwell in the present moment.
Breathing out, I enjoy the present moment.
(Present moment. Enjoy.)

The meditation instructions in italics were written by Vietnamese monk, teacher, author, and peace activist, Thich Nhat Hanh. You can read his instructions together with a short excerpt from his book, Silence: The Power of Quiet in a World Full of Noise (HarperOne, 2014) at Fear of Silence (Tricycle blog).

Why do I get angry? What am I paying attention to? Where did I leave my car keys?

Mental phenomena like these pass through my mind a hundred, a thousand, times every hour. I usually find them so intoxicating that I rarely see the need to answer the question as being separate from the thought that expresses the question.

Bringing awareness to our mental life, seeing how thoughts and emotions rise and fall, is a valuable meditation practice and one that I am making slow, steady progress on. However, other meditation practices await anyone willing to explore. Robin sent me this link to a recent NY Times article (“A Master of Memory in India Credits Meditation for His Brainy Feats”) about the astounding memory of a Jain monk in India. The monk describes his powers of concentration as nothing special, “I have sacrificed everything, and that is why I can do this,” he said. “Anyone can do this, it is not a miracle. My message is this: When you know your own capacity, when you get rid of your distractions, the power of your mind is immense.”

One way or another, meditation can help you, but I can’t tell you exactly how. So here are four possibilities based on stories that friends and family have sent me in the past week:

• Get a grip on heart disease. Researchers at Brown U. have found an association between mindfulness and cardio health. Read more at https://news.brown.edu/articles/2014/10/mindful
• Heal the Red-Blue divide. Washington DC powerbrokers are sitting down together for a little shared quiet time. Who knows what will come next? http://pagesix.com/2014/10/25/meditation-sessions-become-a-hit-in-dysfunctional-congress/
• Keep brain scientists in their labs (and off the streets). Scientific American reveals what neuroscientists are learning about the effects of meditation. http://dx.doi.org/10.1038/scientificamerican1114-38 (paywall)
• Prevent the Robot Revolution. Famed Zen Buddhist D.T. Suzuki once wrote, “We must realize that modern civilization is thoroughly oriented towards dehumanizing humanity in every possible way; that is to say, we are fast turning into robots or statues with no human souls. Our task is to get humanized once more.” Meditation could be part of how we recover our humanity. http://www.tricycle.com/parting-words/humanized-once-more (paywall)